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And in a blink of an eye, MOH and I are celebrating 23 years of friendship, and of that, 9 years married. NINE years!!!! 😱😱😱 I can't believe it! We survived 9 years together without killing each other!! LMAO !!!
As most of you may already know, I write an anniversary blog post every year to commemorate our journey. And in case you don't already know - it's still a "Me & You, Just Us Two" journey. I usually take this annual ritual as a time to reflect on our relationship and perhaps just wonder in amazement at how far we've come.
I know a lot of the youngsters in Myanmar hashtag us as #RSGoals.... but I always tell them that what works for us may not work for them and every relationship will have its own highs and lows. Last year, I already talked about our lows as a couple (here), what we been through to be where we are today. We've made our mistakes as a couple, we're still learning and everything. But above all, we're stronger together.
People ask us if we fight. Of course we fight! We have our "5min-fights". LOL. I guess, the older we get, the more we want less drama. What are these 5-min fights? It would be stuff like these :
Me : Why do you ALWAYS drive like a moron???? You know I don't like it!! 😡😡😡
MOH : I KNOW what I am doing! I can see!!
Me : No you dunno! And your eyes were on the phone!! I would tell your Mother!!!!
............ long silence. We arrive at destination. And that's done, like nothing happened. LOLOL.
Me : Would you hurry up??? I don't like to be late for gym!! You take so long to get ready!!
MOH : Why do you have to scold me first thing in the morning??? I don't like it!!
........... long silence. Arrive at gym. Workout starts and that's done, like nothing happened. LOLOL.
MOH : Did you see the shirt and the pants on the kitchen floor?
Me : Yes. I dunno what were they doing there...
MOH : For you to wash!
Me : Why couldn't you have placed it in the washing machine????
MOH : Cos I tot you would see it!
Me : You wash by hand yourself. I have already done the washing load! I don't care! Simply put!
.......... long silence. Kisses me bye bye to work and that's done. Comes home from work, clothes still on floor and he takes them and puts them in the washing machine. LMFAO.
MOH : It's too spicy! I can't take it! Next time, if it is so spicy, I won't eat!
Me : If you complain this and that, next time, you cook your own dinner! I'm not cooking for you!!!
MOH : Ok. Fine.
........... go to sleep, next day, same conversation from him : "What's for dinner?" 😏😏😏
Of cos this list can go on, and on. I'm laughing as I recall these...... 😆😆😆
I guess, I can recall two recent fights that had lasted more than 5mins....... hmmm.... one was when we had to move apartment (yet again) back in 2017. I usually get quite stressed out when it's moving day cos the marathon unpacking is quite taxing. I can't even remember what started it, prolly cos he was on the phone and not helping out much. And he actually sent me away! Like "You get out of the way first, you go to the gym or whatever and I'll call you once the move is done!!!" I wanted to smack him one. First of all, he won't get it done the way I need it done. So being away would not have helped the situation. What a moron! And he actually raised his voice at me!!! 😭😭😭 Another time was when I had a digital talk going and again, I usually get pretty worked up when I have a public presentation..... he picked the wrong time to clean out the drawers and I was like "Are you kidding me??? I'm gonna be late!!" He actually told me he didn't want to go with me after that. And I was like "Fine!!!" Wanted to punch him cos - at said moment, I thought he was being very unsupportive. What a moron! 😠😠😠 Ok, just so we're clear, he came with me anyway. LOL!
So, yeah, we do fight. But we try not to prolong the fight because, let's put it this way.... in a tiny apartment, there's just the two of us. If we're angry with each other, can you imagine how "stuffy" the place gets? Plus we always wanted a home built on laughter not one where there's always a cold war going on. So there. So simple.
But just so y'all know, I've discovered or rather realized something...... the older MOH gets, the more impatient he has become. Wow, I don't think I am yet prepared for the grumpy old man that I'll be facing in the future..... 😳😳😳 Well, I'll be the grumpy old woman and we can compete who is grumpier. LOL!
Aside from that, work has been taking front row seats with us and these days, this is what we do even on weekends - we stay indoors. We just want to hide from the world in our tiny apartment. And we don't even need to be talking to each other inside the apartment. We'd be doing our own thing. But we're both just hiding and unwinding. And at times like these, where I really am too lazy to even open my mouth to talk, I am grateful that my life partner is an anti-social introvert like me. People find this strange.... "Why won't you have dinner with us??" It's really not that we don't like their company, but if we both do not get our breathing space from human beings, a lot of people might die during the week! And weddings..... lololol...... there are some wedding invitations in which I wouldn't think twice about skipping. But there are also some weddings where I would love to go, except a thousand other guests will also be there and I'm really not keen to make small talks on the weekends. It tires me greatly. Sometimes, we would attend the wedding for 15mins, max 30mins and we'd make an excuse to leave. I'm sorry guys, but this is just us. Not because we are not happy with your celebration of love or anything like that. Don't get us wrong, ya!
Come September 2018 in fact, even our Saturdays would be taken away since I would have new projects to embark on and MOH is also going to be facilitating for the Center for Executive Education Southeast Asia Executive Leadership Programme (Yup, we are a tiny apartment of Sayar and Sayarma)..... so our "special time" would be something we cling on to even more!
These days, we've both also been very active in our sports training. Ever since his knee operation, MOH had been rather determined to heal and not being able to play football anymore, he turned his focus and attention on triathlon. I am somewhat annoyed by this, to be honest. During my peak, he was that fat, lazy tiger who refused to workout. When I was still uninjured and in top form, he was having his coffee waiting for me while I was racing away. (sometimes, he'd miss me at the finish line even!! 😑😑😑) But now that I am injured and can't go the distances anymore, he's showing off with his long distances and races after races and his speed. Back in the day, he won't even be able to smell my smoke. Actually, he still hasn't been able to beat any of my records in terms of timing. So there, that's my sourpuss coming out 😝😝😝 Ah, but well, I am very supportive. I always do remember the times even though he was never interested in triathlons, he was always there with me for my competitions. I guess, now, it's my turn. We did do one race together back in 2016 (where I was faster than him hahahahaha and he refused to believe it!) and upon his encouragement, I did the Bangkok Triathlon recently. But my legs are never the same again and sometimes, it gets worrying - what if I lose mobility? What would he do? How would we cope? Sigh.......
I suppose, maybe cos of that, and because it's that "age" (uuurgh).... we're also talking about future plans..... what happens with a couple that has no kids? What's our retirement plan looking like? I guess, in this aspect, I am a more live-in-the-moment person (not that I don't have plans, I do), but MOH is even planning out our "no income days" and how that would pan out.
I believe every couple goes through different life stages. Looking back, I guess, MOH and myself have been through the struggling phase as young adults trying to build a future for ourselves, we've been through the changes in our careers, passion, ambitions, we've adjusted with the different needs at different stages of our lives...... we've seen each other through our own highs and lows..... we change and we adapt ourselves accordingly to each other's changes, because at the end of the day, whilst we function individually, we still want to be in sync on this journey.
There will be many more fights, many more new things learn about each other and more understanding required to adapt and change (it's like the Waterfall vs Agile method - do, measure, optimize, repeat LOLOLOL) but so long as we keep our hands on each other and build each other stronger, and understand that whilst we each walk our own paths, we're walking on the same journey.
To MOH, my best friend, we've come a long way and there's still a lot more grounds to cover. I'll gladly walk this through together with you even if you became a grumpy old man (I would just molest your cute tushie, you know that I love that view. Hope it won't be too saggy by then 😈😈😈) Here's to our 9th year and wishing for endless laughing moments with you! (even if it means I have to make those laughing moments happen - you better sleep with your eyes opened 😉😉😉😁😁😁)
Below - pix of my favourite tush... I mean, person 😄😄😄